EP: 223 Redefining Normal

In this episode we discuss Redefining Normal.

2:48 Venturing Out

So today we're talking about redefining normal and this really was inspired by a conversation we were having. I was mentioning how,  going out into the world now that things are opening up. I mean, they've been opening up for awhile, but I think we've started venturing out more than usual. 

KISMA

I'd say that's fair. 

Nick

I even took a trip. I flew across the country, and it was fine, but it's just, it's a little bit sensitive. And so my go-to is like, well, I can just be inside the house and be a hermit and work from there and teach from there and coach from here, you know, like everything.

KISMA

3:48 What happens to those three bodies?

Many people can resonate with that idea of like, well, let's just stay home and feel all cuddly and cozy and safe and never go out again. 

KISMA

I think I even more so have that tendency of like being the home body. 

NICK

Yeah you’re more hermity than I am, but I've grown into being quite the hermit over COVID. 

KISMA

Yeah. I think there's that part of your nature too. That's just like, yeah, we're good. We got everything that we need right here.

Nick

And we do, I'm so grateful. But then what does that mean for, you know, if we just look at three pieces, your mindset, your physical body and the energy body. If we're not actually out in the world, mindset and you know, emotional body, but if we're not out in the world interacting and being with other humans, what happens to those three bodies?

You look at the mental, emotional and the physical and the energy bodies.

KISMA

6:40 The inertia sets in

So long as you're getting some fresh air and things like that, do all your exercise, you can maintain your body. Like you can do all that stuff. You can maintain a really great immune system in that way and really great health. But you have to make concerted efforts to do it. Well, you know, what we saw over the past year is that certain people did that and certain people didn't. We're not making any of it right or wrong, but you know, people went through their own thing around it and some people got super fired up. We decluttered the whole house. I learned how to cook a lot better, you know, like all sorts of things and, and other people drank a lot and just really kind of closed up in their holes. In TV, again, for all different reasons and we're not making any of it wrong, but that has obviously the physical effect and that inertia sets in.

Nick

11:52 Self-trust

Not knowing who to trust and that erodes a self-trust. And so now it's like entering back into the world and the trust isn't really there. And I think ultimately, you know, cause I want to give our listeners some tips on how to reboot the whole system so you can have your normal and it's healthy for you. I think self-trust is a really good place to start because if you're not trusting yourself, you won't really know what your true normal is, what a healthy normal is. 

KISMA

That’s right. 

Nick

So maybe it's spending five to fifteen minutes every day, just kind of anchoring into your core values, your beliefs, whether it's affirmations, whether it's Nick's meditations or my meditations, but to really get centered, you know, for us, it's like, or at least for me, I'd be like connect to Source, connect to God, connect to Universe, remember who you are as this spiritual being, and really bring in that so that you can trust yourself as a human being again, then you can start to trust the world outside or at least trust that you can navigate it.

KISMA

16:39 Dysfunction can be very normal

I think those are things that are really important. Cause a lot of things are very normal, dysfunction in family is extremely normal. But is that the kind of normal that we want?

Nick

Exactly. 

KISMA

And you see it from family to family, like, remember when you were a kid and you know, you do dinner at your house, the way that you do it. And then you go over to your friend's house and it's like radically different. That's like one normal versus another.

Nick

18:07 New Normal

So when I think about a new normal, I think about it kind of in terms of, well what's really that conducive environment for myself, that's going to help me thrive, help me be more of me and help me do the things that I'm here to do. 

Nick

That's right. Get to what you want, what you want to do while you're here and create the normal reverse engineer. I like it. 

KISMA