EP: 225 What to do when you finally have some space

In this episode we discuss what to do when you finally have some space.

00:02:35 - Empty Space

Well, this is something I definitely noticed with myself is, you get that empty space and there's usually like a sigh of relief. Yeah, man. You know, maybe something got canceled or, you know, a meeting got canceled or something shifted and it's like, oh, now I don't have to do that thing. And whew, man, it's like sigh of relief for a second. But immediately the mind is like, well, what am I going to fill it with? 

NICK

I don't even know that the mind go. I feel like it's sort of this subconscious, you start just filling or maybe yeah, because there's a nervousness, like there's space. When am I going to do? And then at least if I'm not grounded or anchored, I'll just start all of a sudden floating around the house and walking outside and picking a plum and coming back in and just like things that don't need to happen right then and there. And before, you know, an hour's gone.

KISMA

00:004:00 - What is taking space?

So describe what is taking space. 

KISMA

Well, I mean, to, to me in the truest sense of it taking spaces, like I'm not going to, I'm just not going to do anything. 

NICK

I'm just going to be with myself. 

KISMA

I'm just going to like sit and be a maniac, you know, and be with myself.

NICK

Just like be with my feelings, my thoughts, my body, my energy, that can be incredibly uncomfortable for people. 

KISMA 

It's really, it's really a weird experience, I think, you know, and how I put it in the message, you know, is like pure perception.

NICK

00:05:35 - Not that easy

It's it's, it's, it's actually not that easy. 

NICK

No, we're so used to being distracted. Yes. And then, then there's a feeling like, well, I should be doing something, so I'm taking space, but I'll read this book or I'll devour this book or something that man just being with ourselves. And it's interesting because we're the ones, you know, between our ears, we are with ourselves 24/7, we are with ourselves more than any other human yet to just be and have that space can feel so uncomfortable.

KISMA

00:07:25 - Practices, Tips & Tools

So what about some practices, some tips, some tools for people to just be, where do they start? 

KISMA

It's a little hard to instruct because it's, you know, it's the opposite of doing anything.

NICK

Right. 

KISMA

That you have to actually like make a decision to just do nothing. 

NICK

What would one possibly feel, or what can they expect when they enter this decision of I'm just going to sit and be for five minutes a day. 

KISMA

Well, that's a really interesting question because, um, I think it could be like, really, really, I know in myself, like I have really different experiences of that. You know, sometimes it's like really relaxing and just like, you know, kind of 

NICK

getting cosmic.

KISMA

Yeah. And then other times it's, there's, you have some really deep insights from that space. You know, other times you just kinda just feels like a sigh of relief, you know? So I, I can't really say, you know, but all I can say is like, you gotta try it, just try it for yourself.

NICK

00:09:27 - When one takes space

Well, I think when one takes space and you're able to just be, that's when the intuition starts to come in, like there's just there's quietude and it might take, it might take some practice or it might just happen automatically for people's like, yeah, I'm just going to make that decision. I'm just going to be bit without the noise, without leaning in and having to do something, you're going to feel the connection that is there anyways, with your intuitive channel, with your spiritual channel, it's just, there is that space and depth for you to start to hear a start to know or start to receive.

KISMA

00:12:35 - Anytime

So before we sign off choice decision to take the space, is there a certain time of day that you recommend? 

KISMA

No. Anytime, anytime. Cause it doesn't have to be a lot, like five minutes will, it can seem like an eternity. 

NICK 

So perhaps it would be like the taking space challenge five minutes a day. 

KISMA

Yeah. Anytime, anywhere like you can just sit on a park bench and just be, you can be that weirdo. Who's just sitting there looking at the tree.

NICK

I think back in the day. That's what people did, like we're on our phones and we're eating and we're doing all sorts of crazy things. 

KISMA

Yeah. You see people it's like I say, I always crack up at that meme when I, whenever it floats through my feet, you know, it's like I was in a coffee shop and I saw this guy sitting there just drinking a cup of coffee, like a maniac, like, like people don't do that, you know, just go somewhere and just drink a cup of coffee, you know?

NICK

00:15:43 - Do Nothing

So five minutes a day. Doesn't matter what time everyone just sit and be with yourself. 

KISMA

Yeah. Yeah. One, try it in the middle of the day. 

NICK

Yeah. I bet there'll be a renewed energy for the rest of the day. 

KISMA

Try, you know, you can try it in the morning. Like that might be a little easier to start and don't meditate.

NICK

Don't meditate, you know, just, you're not meditating. Don't go to God, let God come to you. 

KISMA

Oh, dang Kimsa. My mic drop right there. Yeah. I like that. Um, you're not meditating. You're not reading or studying. You're not contemplating. Is it like none of it's really. I mean, what I like just do nothing.

NICK